I've been thinking about this question lately. I think it was last weekend, my dad and sister were here and we were talking about one of my fabulous author pals, and my Dad said 'Dee, you should definitely write a book'. My sister popped up and answered for me with 'she is, but they're rude books', and giggled. I actually looked away from my Dad! I mean, come on, does he want to know that I'm dabbling with writing erotica? Which made me think, why not? Would he not be proud of me? Of course he would, I know he would. But I know some others have not been in that situation. I asked the following question to a few author friends of mine, and this is what they said:
You write Erotic Romance Novels. Do your Parents/Family/Friends know what you do? How do they feel about it?
Well Parents are no longer with us, but they'd be pleased I'd followed my dream. Probably not read it though. Family and friends around? Mixed. Some love it, some don't care one way or the other, some ( so called friends) mutter disgusting. Some are proud I write, but don't like what. ( erotic? Argh lol) Some are very supportive. So the answer there is mixed!
Raven McAllan
The people close to me know. The ones that matter to me don't care what I write. If anyone minds they haven't told me.
Kiru Taye
My mother keeps asking me when I'm going to write something SHE can read. Otherwise, she doesn't really care. Some of my SO's family were derisive, but I don't think its any of their business. Most of them are noncommittal- or at least, they don't say anything to my face. LOL
Lee Brazil
I write under my own name so, yes, everyone does know what I write.
I've long ago decided, I am me, and if you don't like it, that's just
too bad. After all I don't force anyone to read my books.
Having said that, on the whole, friends and family
have been mostly supportive. Some I've never had that conversation with.
Others openly read my books and that's lovely.
I had a hysterical conversation with a friend over the summer. She said,
"No offence but I shall never read one of your books, because I could
not look you in the eye afterwards."
We had a good giggle and that was that.
That is not to say, I've not had my fair share of
disapproving comments, because I've had them, but I've got a pretty
thick skin, and let them roll off me. I'm proud of what I write, and I
have my husband's full support, which is all that matters.
Doris O'Connor
This is a complicated question for me.
My
dh is aware that I write erotic romance. Up until recently, he was not
happy that I enjoyed writing Paranormal erotic romance. It did not sit
well with him. So I continued but did not make it obvious. This meant I
did not tell other members of the family and only a few VERY close
friend were told.
Recently, my dh and I had
another chat and were cleared up some of his concerns. We are now in a
place where he knows I write, he does not wish to know the details and I
keep it away from the real me - I use a pen name. This suits me as I
need to be careful because of the job I do (Yes I am a super spy!)
Once my children are older, then I will be more open with wider family and friends.
Until then, this is a compromise and it works at the moment
Michaela Rhua
I've written one erotic romance. I thought maybe I could, decided I
would, and I did. It took a year from meeting someone who gave me the
inspiration to it being published. I got caught up in the excitement,
the camaraderie and the author bonding. I loved the editing and being
involved in the cover art. I liked the challenge of turning things
around in tight timescales while having a proper day job. I felt
involved, included and supported.
But all the time I was wondering who I could tell, who I should tell, who I shouldn't ever tell.
I thought I had that sorted but I was wrong. I told too many people.
Only my very immediate family know I've written my book and I thought I'd picked the close friends I could share it with too.
Turns
out that some "friends" have strict boundaries and as a straight male
writing "gay porn" I'd smashed straight through those boundaries.
I was almost giggly with excitement when I appeared on Amazon, when I had an ISBN, when people could actually buy my book.
My book.
For sale.
For real.
And within days that excitement was trampled underfoot.
Why
would anyone even want to write that sort of thing? What kind of
pervert buys it? Are my children safe to be left alone with him?
For
a long time I wished I'd never written it. I deleted all my blog posts
and set about removing any trace of anything that could lead from my
author self to my married, male, straight self. I deleted my author
Facebook page, my Pinterest and Twitter accounts, my Authorgraph
account.
But now it's some months later and there are real
friends who know and find it amusing, who are proud of me and what I've
done. The close knit author groups on Facebook are still there for me as
they were before and during it.
And I might, just might, write another one.
But this time I'm only telling you - because you get it.
Faberge Nostromo
My family knows that I write dirty
things, but they choose not to comment on it. They are proud of me and
what I have done with my writing, but I believe they are in denial about
how hot things get, lol. My friends chalk it up to me and my dirty
mind! :-)
Megan D Martin
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